Over the weekend one of the great football players in recent history was shot multiple times and killed. What a tragedy. While the exact details of Steve McNair's death are still being investigated some things are clear.
First of all, his brother claims he was a great role model. I would disagree. He was a great football player who did some great things for local charities. But he was married and had four kids. And he was hanging out with an unmarried twenty-year old woman...at 2am in the morning in a condo.
Here's the point. Why do we so often misjudge the character of others? Even if we do not do it publicly we do it privately. We overlook things like pride, unethical behavior, and unsavory behavior.
To top it off we do this with friends. Rather than politely confront a friend and share what we believe to be a character issue we allow our 'friend' to continue on. How many confronted Steve McNair? Maybe several did and he ignored them. Obviously his brother thought it was ok to run around with the girl he was with.
This past week my message on the
National Conscience addressed the issue of how our consciences drift. Ten years ago perhaps Steve McNair would not have thought about doing what he did. But somewhere along the line his conscience drifted and behavior he would not have tolerated he now tolerated.
And the sad part is, it ultimately led to his death. Right now there may be behavior in a friend's life or yours that you are tolerating. Why do we do that? If change is not forthcoming the end result may not be pretty.